Dating advice for loners
Maybe you see if there are other energy drains in your life you can minimise. And the good news is that once you have met someone and got through all the stressful, small-talky beginnings and settle into a relationship, many introverts find that the energy drain of being together lessens.
Most people describe dating as a mixed emotional experience filled with excitement and hope, and heightened nerves and insecurities.
During your quiet time, put down the technology and focus on recharging your energy.
Also try a daily mindfulness or meditation practice (research shows that just five minutes goes a long way), find a creative outlet, or take up journaling or yoga.
This is because side-by-side conversation might flow more easily than face-to-face conversation over a restaurant table, which can feel like a lot of pressure.
Plus, an activity gives you stuff to talk about that’s not, “So, how many siblings do you have?
While small talk may not be your cup of tea, understanding it is the first step to connecting with a stranger will lead you in the right direction.
If you know you function better with daily alone time, make it a part of your schedule.
This may involve the uncomfortable dilemma of saying no, but putting yourself first is worth it.
“So if you’re in searching-for-happily-ever-after mode, then you have to realise that it will take energy and figure out from there how to make it work,” says Sophia.
“Maybe you plan a week or two of focus on dating then pull back for a week or two.