Dating psychology today
When I was in my twenties and had a date, this is what I would do. Then I would hand pick the the songs I wanted to play and load the CDs into my six disc changer in the trunk. I've never been seduced at a coffee shop or at somebody's friend's house.I would wake up early like it was Christmas and wash my car. Then I would go workout so I felt good about myself. We know we can swipe and find another prospect while our date is in the restroom. But woman generally want to be asked out, and who ever asks the person out takes the initiative, makes the plans, and sets the tone. That's a fantastic idea, but these young men have been emasculated every single step of the way. I didn't have money for good clothes back then, so I couldn't dress up for special events.
We’re all just swiping, crossing fingers, and pissed off the person we met on our phone two hours ago is not our soul mate. A real conversation is the first step to get to know someone. But regardless of intent, I agree that casual dates are not as fun.
After getting ready, I would pick her up from her apartment. I would compliment her appearance and mean it as we walked to my car. And if there was a spark and things went well on the date, she’d get flowers or a note or something she can actually hold in the next few days. Secondly, it was WOMEN who changed the rules of the mating arena - not men.
If you’re a male in your twenties, you may read this and think, “Wow, what a loser.” Well, okay. Today, a date is not really a date because there’s no such thing anymore. Young women were told that promiscuity was good and slut shaming is bad.
Once you’ve seen them, and by seen I don’t mean in photos, either in person or Skype or Facetime or any live video platform, ask them out. If a man doesn't act like something is a date then it isn't a date. IMHO, hanging out will never morph into a relationship without a dating process.
” Not, “Hey, me and my friends are going to be ______, wanna meet us? This is how I remember dating, way back in the late 80's/early 90's. I've been married to my sweet wonderful husband since 1992 and I'm very grateful to not be a part of today's hookup culture. The vast majority of adults are not running around having random sex with people they barely know. But if one asks me to hang out then that I what I assume we are doing.